Can you be a Christian and struggle with depression?

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Doing Life Together

Ronnie and Christie Bruce

If you deal with fear in any form, you will want to read this.

Lately Ronnie and I have had some life struggles we are having to walk through. It can be from finances, people, health, just everyday life. When someone does a wrong to me, I go into my protective mode, Isolating and wanting to give up on whatever the situation may be, just so I don’t have to feel the pain of it. When someone or something hurts me, I don’t want to walk through the hurt, I just withdraw from whatever the situation is and shut down completely which has cost me some amazing friendships in the past. In my walk in recovery, I am really trying to work on this really hard. I have always dealt with fear negatively my whole life and it is one of the worst feelings in the world. It shows its ugly head at me quite often.  As I was getting in the word this morning I stumbled upon Psalms 62:8 which says “Make Me your refuge by pouring out your heart to Me, trusting in Me at all times. WOW…I don’t know about you but that gives me so much hope and comfort. We need to remember to talk to Jesus all day long, not just in our prayer time we set aside but all day, especially when life issues arise on a daily basis. He does not want everyday problems to distract us, He wants us to watch Him confidently and see what He will do. When things go wrong we tend to react as if were being punished. So, instead of having a negative response to things that come up daily, let’s try to disguise difficulties as a blessing in disguise.

Lord help us all to try and put this in place in our lives, bringing us hope for everyday!

Doing life together

Ronnie and Christie

If you think you don’t hear from God…read this and you will see you do!

I have had others ask me, “why don’t I ever hear from God? Well the truth is you always hear from God in one way or another. Just for example; we were driving back from Birmingham one weekend and as we were driving we saw the most beautiful rainbow you have ever seen. I had been really stressed out the whole week and weekend and this was God speaking to me letting me know with Him it is all OK. Reminding me gently that there will be color to my situation if I continue to trust in Him. He is the creator of the universe and I knew immediately that rainbow was for me.

Another instance I was really stressed out having to go to the Dr. to get my back surgery scheduled. I was very anxious and had somewhat of some fear. I was starting to feel a lot of anxiety when I got there. While I was waiting in the room for the Dr. I was flipping through a Better Homes and Garden magazine and guess what happened, a tiny piece of paper someone had stuck in there fell out and it had a scripture written on and I knew it was for me.

John 5:13 I write these things to you who believe in the name of the Son of God so that you may know that you have eternal life. ( which said to me…I’m gonna have eternal life with Him so don’t worry He’s got this)

The very next day when I got home from work, I saw my flip flops in the floor and went to pick them up. Right when I picked them up, a rose petal in a heart shape fell off the bottom of my shoe. I just kind of had to sit there and laugh and thank Him once again speaking to me in so many ways this week.

So yes, God does speak to us all the time. It might be through things like I just described, it could be a person God sends to your life, or His beauty outside of all the things He created.  Just look for it my friend every day, be sure to have the ears to listen, and the eyes to see, and I promise you see that God speaking to you all the time.

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Hope this helps

Doing Life together,

Ronnie and Christie


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5 Life giving things your husband wants.

So many people look at marriage as a way to get their own needs met. In a godly, healthy marriage you will have many needs met. But as an adult, as a believer and as a wife, you will be much happier, more satisfied and find more success in your marriage if you focus more of your efforts on what your husband needs from you rather than first seeking to get your own needs met.

Your husband is responsible for his own behavior. Always. But as his wife, you have much more influence and “power” in your relationship than you probably realize. You are fully equal to your husband in the sight of God, but He has given you a role and responsibility in your husband’s life that is unique.

For your own sake, pay attention to these five things your husband needs from you. These are needs that no one else can meet to the degree that you as his wife can. Meeting some of these needs may feel unnatural to you, but just do it. Don’t worry about doing it perfectly. But if you proactively seek to understand and meet these needs in your husband, you can be the catalyst God uses to support him in becoming the man God created him to be.

1. Honor and Respect

A man thrives on honor and respect. He will gravitate to the place where he is most honored and respected whether at work or at home. This does not mean you refuse to see his faults, but it means you look for the best in him and affirm all that is good. Just as you don’t want him to give you conditional love, don’t give him conditional respect. Offer it as a gift, generously. He is likely to do more of any behavior you appreciate and affirm.

Show him respect by honoring his opinion, following his leadership, covering his faults, and allowing him to fail. You are free to—and should—speak up when you see him going in a “wrong” or dangerous direction, but allow God to be the enforcer. Speak well of him in front of others. Be his biggest cheerleader. Magnify his good qualities. Treat him at a level above what you may think he deserves, and he is likely to do all he can to live up to that.

If there is abuse going on take it seriously. Get some help. You can do that even while respecting your husband.)

2. Affirm His Sexual Nature

No,you don’t have to say yes every time your husband wants to have sex.  This is about so much more than frequency. His sexuality is one of the primary ways your husband experiences and expresses his masculinity. He needs you to embrace and affirm his sexual nature; that’s the way God made him. He needs you to accept your role as the object of his sexual desires. Simply “doing your duty” sexually doesn’t cut it; your husband feels successful when you are satisfied, when you enjoy yourself, when you show that you desire him. Actively pursue intimacy with him.

A man’s sexual needs often get a bad reputation because of how often they have been distorted. Remember, your husband is always responsible for his own behavior. But under God you, as his wife, can support and affirm who God made him to be, including sexually. Stretch yourself. Take a mental step toward your husband, and follow it up. Be more sexual than you feel. Have fun. Enjoy yourself. It will keep drawing your husband back to you.

3. Create a Home

This has nothing to do with whether or not you work outside the home, or what level of gifting and desire you have in cooking, cleaning or decorating. Your husband needs to be an equal partner in home responsibilities. But your husband needs you to be the architect of the home environment. He needs to have a place to come home to, regardless of how humble the physical surroundings.

Think through what your husband’s experience is like when he comes home. Is it a place he wants to be? Is he safe there? Is the fragrance of your attitude and demeanor appealing? Does he feel as though home is where he belongs? Although the physical environment has an influence, much more important is the sense of rest, of being welcomed, of safety, of being loved, valued and understood.

4. Be His Friend

You’re not your husband’s mother or his child. He needs you to be his helpmeet, his partner, his friend. If you find yourself criticizing, micro-managing, belittling, controlling, begging, demanding or expecting him to “fix” you, quit it. He will end up resenting you if you play his mother, and he will not respect or desire you if you play his child.

Enter his world. Show interest in what interests him. Stretch yourself to understand things he does or values. Ask questions, join him in some activity he enjoys, and choose to find joy in doing things together. Many men will feel much more motivated to communicate from their heart when they are engaging in some enjoyable activity with their best friend—you.

5. Pray for Him

Your influence on your husband is never greater than when you are on your knees. Countless men have been drawn to God through a praying wife. More than your words to your husband, your words to God about him and for him will make a difference.

Don’t pray only that God change him, although you are free to do that. Also pray for God to show you who He needs you to be to your husband at this season of your marriage. Ask Him to create such an inviting fragrance through you that your husband can’t help but respond. Your sensitivity to the Spirit’s work in your life, your husband’s life, and your marriage can make you an indispensable partner in what God is seeking to do.

Lord I pray you mold me into the wife you speak of here in Jesus name.

Doing Life Together

Ronnie and Christie

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